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LIVING IN SIN

Thursday Note June 8, 1995

     Several news breaking stories that we have been following diligently have, well..., broken and we knew you would want an update. First off, the Scrabble issue, which we reported to you in depth, blew itself all over page 2 of Wednesday's Times. You may recall Mike Goldman, "who claimed he was cheated out of victory when his timing clock was started while he was in the lavatory." (In the interest of reducing possible confusion, it should be said that mention of the timing clock and the lavatory in the same sentence might be unfortunate in that the issue was Mr. Goldman's performance on the Scrabble court, not in the lavatory.) Goldman is suing Graeme Thomas, chairman of the Association of Premier Scrabble players, for £5000 for personal damages. According to The Times staff reporter, "The case, at Central London County Court, has excited the scrabble playing world and after more than 20 enthusiasts turned up, the hearing was moved to a larger court." Watch this space for developments.

     Also on Wednesday, the Church of England released its blockbuster report on the family, taking the position that Living in Sin should no longer be condemned and the phrase should be dropped. The report was immediately criticized, and one of its authors resigned, stating that the report is not Christian enough. The Archbishop of Canterbury, Dr. George Carey, waffled and distanced himself, "insisting: 'it is not, and does not purport to be the Church's authoritative teaching.'"

Cardinal Hume of the Roman Catholic church said its view was clear: "Full sexual relationships are only possible inside marriage. That presents our society with an enormous challenge and a difficult ideal." It also leaves unanswered the old half a loaf question,or so it seems.

     The phrase "living in sin" comes from the annual report of the Bath City Mission in 1838, the year after Victoria came to the throne, which reports: "Front attic, two aged people living in sin." Which in itself gives rise to hope for some of us, having been led to believe that the experience (and term) was reserved for the young. You can see the headline now: "Swampy View Retirement Home Torn Apart Psychologically as 80-year-old couple Discovered Living in Sin." One thing does lead to another, and the Thursday paper expanded the story. Referring to the report by the Church of England, “Something to Celebrate,” and its suggestion that "living in sin" should no longer be condemned and that the phrase should be abandoned, Cardinal Basis Hume of the Roman Catholic Church said its view was clear: "Full sexual relationships are only possible inside marriage. That presents our society with an enormous challenge and a difficult ideal." It also leaves unanswered the old half a loaf question, or so it seems.


     Joining the discussion and offering hope to some, the rabbi of Britain's Reform synagogues pointed out that the history of Judaism has long maintained that a formal ceremony is not necessary for a marriage. Dr. Jonathan Romain of Maidenhead Synagogue (okay, you check the spelling) stated that, "In other words, cohabitation meant marriage. What was and still is condemned was any relationship that was adulterous or incestuous." Over in the next county his colleague, the American Rabbi Shmuel Boteach, who lives in Oxford and counsels couples, says that, "The man who does not worry is convinced his wife is not the type to have an affair, meaning she's boring and non-sexual." In his publication out today, "The Jewish Guide to Adultery" Rabbi Boteach says: "Every married person should be always aware of the fact that, at any moment, even your most loving spouse is fully capable of committing adultery." Love one, love all, as the semi-old proverb says. Now, on to Skipton and the Settle to Carlisle Yorkshire Railroad.


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